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Sex, Love, and Lasting Relationships: Difference Between Boys and Girls

So what are some of the big difference between Guys and Girls?

Well lets see:

Guys are:                                         Girls are:

Visual                                                 Emotional

Pushy                                                 Guarded

Constant                                             Moody

What is the goal for Romance: To have Intimacy in Marriage.

If we want intimacy in marriage then lets start with what intimacy is: Intimacy is No Fear of Rejection (Gen. 2:25)

Keys:

1.  Sex is important to you, and to God.  ( I Cor. 7:1-8)

God created sex for three main reasons, a. children, b. our enjoyment, c. His Glory.  But God created sex, sex is not a bad thing it is a wonderful, awesome thing when used in its right place and manner, after marriage. We can not truly enjoy the gift of sex in any way outside of the boundaries of marriage.

2.  You are responsible for YOUR OWN sexual behavior (I Thess. 4:1-4) What type of situations do we put ourselves in?  Many times we put ourselves in places where we have very little chance not to fail.  Dating for instances, we should not date alone,  go in groups so there is not temptation to mess up and fall into sin.

3.  You are Partially responsible for the behavior of other Christians. (I Thess. 4:5-6).  How can I be responsible for someone else, well when you read these verses it will help you understand that if you are defrauding someone you are causing them to sin. Defrauding is causing desires to stir up in others that they can not righteously satisfy.  Girls you wear something cut way low, or very tight you are defrauding the guys, how you ask, go back to the top and re-read what guys are. . . . . we are visual.  Guys, telling your girlfriend you “love them” is defrauding them why you ask, go back to the list. . . . . girls are emotional, when you connect with them by throwing out those words you can cause them to stumble and defraud them. 

4.  Your deepest, most intimate relationship must be based on Common Values (II Cor. 6:14-15).  These verses are the verse that say “do not be unequally yoked with someone who is not a believer.”  well it is because you have nothing in common that matters.  You might like the same ice cream or the same color but the one thing that matters the most is not there, your relationship with Christ.

Remember Sex is not bad, it is very good when practiced in the manner God created it to be, within the marriage of one man to one woman for life.